We often hear about random acts of kindness, but lately, I’ve been thinking about random acts of silence. Those small moments where choosing not to speak is the kindest thing we can do. Sometimes, the most generous thing we can offer isn’t an action, but restraint.

Charity is often thought of as something we do to help others like assisting a friend, sharing resources, offering expertise. But what about another type charity, one that comes from what we don’t do.

There have been times when someone has said something I didn’t like, and I felt the urge to react. Maybe to correct them, push back, or express frustration. But I’ve noticed that when I pause instead, I often realize it doesn’t need a response at all. And if it does, waiting until I can approach it calmly makes all the difference.

I’ve also realized it is easy to get caught up in my own perspective. I need to consider that the other person might just see things differently. Or even if they are wrong, not everything needs to be called out. Sometimes, letting things go brings more peace than proving a point.

This connects to something I’ve been reflecting on lately. Influence isn’t just about what I say or do, but also about what I choose not to say or do. I’ve found that when I react with patience, people are more patient with me in return. And when I do slip up, they’re more likely to extend grace.

So this week, I’m paying more attention to internal charity. Recognizing those moments where doing nothing is actually an act of kindness. Have you noticed this too?